Dear Nancy, Should i message them back?

I keep receiving Match.com messages from men – even many who have their Masters or PhD degrees, which are full of typos and grammatical errors. I find this very unappealing, as it shows they are incapable of proper writing skills, are being sloppy and, in some cases I get the sense they are drunk when writing. Should I message them back and tell them that I don’t appreciate such poor writing skills or just forget about them?

  • Lydia – 57 – Exton

Dear Lydia,

Thank you for writing such a great question.

Men, listen up: Women do not want to receive poorly written emails from you, especially if you are looking for a woman of stature, culture and education. In fact, the Wall Street Journal recently cited a study which reveled poor writing skills to be one of the biggest turn offs for both men and women. I highly recommend to everyone, both men and women, that they monitor their alcohol intake while searching and writing to potential dates while online. Moreover, many of my clients, both men and women, complain that too often their first phone call with potential suitors is very disappointing because the person is drunk on the phone.

While most of us are not reading Emily Post’s book on Etiquette these days, there is still the Golden Rule that should be followed. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is found in almost every single religion and ethnic tradition. Thus, try your best to be a lady and a gentleman in the world of dating.

At All About Connecting, we feel there really is a need for higher dating standards it can start now. Take the time to write a dignified profile and post professional looking photos. Review your emails to make sure they make sense, are interesting and well-written, with spelling and grammar checked twice. Don’t become aggressive with communication, but instead, be a fun, fascinating date and certainly courteous. It only takes one person to start making a difference.

Lydia, don’t bother wasting your time with these men. Take their typos as a red flag and focus on more dignified gentlemen. Good luck!