Dear Nancy, How am I supposed to stay fit and date?

I’d love to start online dating, but I just don’t have the time. I work full-time, travel a few days a week for business, and try to run 5 miles every day, plus get to the gym. How am I supposed to stay fit and date?

  • Jackie – 36 – Paoli

Dear Jackie,

I understand completely your reluctance to date if it means you will have to give up on staying fit. One of our jobs at All About Connecting is to teach people how to make dating easy and help them with their healthy lifestyle, as opposed to having it be a deterrent. Below are some of our suggestions that should help:

  1. Don’t waste time while online. That means no need for endless searching, lengthy emails, or becoming pen pals. Remember that the goal is to get offline as soon as possible. Thus, once you establish comfort that the man seems safe and someone you’d like to meet, write back with your phone number and take the next step – to chat as soon as possible.
  2. Make phone calls short and to the point. No need to have a 30 minute discussion with each prospect. If you like the sound of their voice, and feel they have similar interests (i.e. enjoy being active and healthy), just get the date.
  3. There are no rules about having to meet your dates for dinner or drinks. I suggest, after the first date, make all your dates active and fun. I have many clients who go for hikes with their dates, or even meet up at a gym and then go for a drink or bite to eat. From biking the Schuylkill trail, to running charity races, or going hiking in Valley Forge, there are plenty of great date options that will keep you feeling fit as a fiddle.